Why Did That Car Pass So Close to Me? (Dominant vs. Avoidant): Avoidant People and Karma

Was it simply poor driving, or rudeness born from deficiency?

Hello, everyone! It’s Seojun.

I worked out really hard yesterday. So today, to help my CNS (central nervous system) recover, I went for a light walk.

I was walking along a road that felt like a country lane but could also be considered a street. A car appeared in the distance and passed dangerously close to me with a whoosh. Even if the car wasn’t doing anything illegal, I was as far to the side as I could be, and there was only one road there.

I felt really upset in that moment. It was as if the car was saying to me:

“I’m driving an expensive car, and you’re nothing.”
“Why is a person walking on the road?! I need to put you in your place.”

No matter how much I tried to rationalize it—maybe they were in a hurry or had other reasons—my startled heart and unpleasant feelings didn’t settle easily. I was stuck with those thoughts until my walk was almost over.

But when I looked closely, the car wasn’t even that expensive. It looked like a rental… Seeing that made me think, ‘This is someone who likes to show off.’ People like this usually don’t have smooth relationships and aren’t very stable economically or psychologically. After doing a bit of this ‘rationalization,’ my mind finally calmed down.

I’m surrounded by wonderful people. I also think I’m capable, good at working out, and smart! It’s just… I don’t have much financial freedom yet! (Hehe)

I’ve been learning a lot lately from blogging and YouTube. They say there’s no response in the beginning, and while it’s not official, there’s something called a ‘sandbox period.’ I’ll keep this brief since Google might not like me going deeper… but seeing this system makes me sad that good people suffer because of a few bad actors.
(If you’re curious, search for ‘blog sandbox period’!)

I know. That car might have been driven by someone who wasn’t thinking, was inexperienced, or had dull awareness. But there’s also a real chance they were a ‘bad person’—a typical ‘life avoidant’ who only feels secure when they’re above others.

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Dominant vs. Avoidant—What’s the Difference?

Why do I call them ‘avoidant’ instead of dominant? People like me with a dominant personality (martial arts style) like to work hard in healthy ways and face things head-on. We don’t harm others—we find fulfillment in proving our own abilities.

But avoidant types run away when problems arise. When they get close to someone, they try to manipulate them (gaslighting), and when they’re distant, they quietly approach again. Every morning they regret their actions but can’t stop. They’re too afraid to acknowledge their own problems. So they try to confirm their existence by harming others.

The problem is that, structurally in the brain, when you try to cover up problems with something else, you end up wanting bigger and more stimulating things. Eventually, they do worse things, regret them more deeply, and keep burying their true feelings.

That’s why they inevitably collapse on their own. Even when you try to help, they run away out of fear, so there’s no way to reach them. I like helping people and I’m understanding, so I’ve tried approaching them first, but they won’t face things directly.

Of course, that driver might have genuinely lacked skill or didn’t see me. Maybe I felt worse because I saw in that car the image of ‘life avoidant’ people I’ve encountered in the past.

I hope my YouTube channel or blog does well soon so I can find financial stability.

Are there people who might say,
“If making money were that easy, why would everyone go to work?”

Then quit your job and try what I’ve been doing for over 8 months—making videos, writing blogs, publishing books, releasing albums. Meditate for mental health, exercise, breathe, affirm, and read. Don’t just criticize with words.

Most people support me, and I’m truly grateful, but occasionally a few rude people upset me. I want to tell them: if you keep living like that, you’ll really get hurt. One day I might explode and pour out all the harm you’ve caused others at once. I’m not telling you to live righteously. Just keep this feeling uncomfortably etched in your mind.

Because harming others always comes back around. Karma. Whether I do it myself, the social system does it, or the laws of the universe do it, it will catch up eventually. If you want to get hurt as little as possible when that happens, try making an effort now. It will be less painful that way.

This isn’t a serious piece, nor one written in anger. Today I just… wanted to type out my feelings. This is writing that doesn’t need to help anyone—perhaps written only for myself.

January 22, 2026
End of Seojun’s emotional record.
_{(Hoping for a day when I can look back at this
and smile warmly.)}