Goldilocks Fundamentals 101: If You Understand This, Your 95% Will Succeed

Once you understand the true roots of the Golden Rule, 95% of your Golden Rule practice is already a success. However, many people only see the surface aspects of stimulation and abstinence. It's important to understand the true nature of abstinence so that you can practice it consistently and without wavering.

The bottom line is that the root of our desired sexuality is the A deep longing to feel my presence. There are many ways to feel your presence. Exercise, authentic connection with people, creativity, writing, etc. You can feel your presence sensually or intuitively through various behaviors.

We live because we want to validate our existence. Behind every action is an intrinsic desire to feel me. I can affirm myself through connecting with people, embrace my abilities and senses through exercise, and reveal and see myself through writing.

Exercise has been an important tool in my life to effectively control my libido and keep me healthy, but as my exercise has decreased, I've found myself in a period of time where my natural libido is stronger. However, this experience was deeply introspective and enlightening for me.

🌱 Failed abstinence, and what I learned afterward

At first, I stayed abstinent as I always do, but around week three or four, I suddenly had a strong urge. I ended up failing my first day of abstinence. I beat myself up for a while, but I learned from this experience. Thinking deeply about what I really wantedto start working.

While I had previously chalked up my abstinence failures to a simple lack of willpower, this time I took a different approach: I decided to go beyond satisfying my instinctual urges and delve deeper into the causes and nature of my cravings.

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🎨 Self-exploration with art

In order to understand my sexuality more deeply, I turned to art, looking at nude croquis and anthropomorphic artwork on the internet to explore sexuality. At first, I just felt sexual urges, but over time, I gained a new perspective on sex.

I realized that sex is beautiful not because of the titillating nudity, but because of the freedom and liberation it brings. When you take off your clothes, you're not hiding yourself, you're exposing yourself fully to the other person. It's an unadorned act of genuine connection. That sense of freedom and liberation is what makes castles beautiful.

🎮 The difference between ‘stimulation and connection' realized through gaming

Next, we're going to get a little naughty and play a little dirty with the Exploring the nature of sexualityI did. The female bodies represented in the game were beautiful, and the facial expressions and gestures conveyed the Freedom and joywas intense, and at first I thought that was the real connection I wanted.

But at the last minute, I felt a strong sense of discomfort in a particular scene. Upon closer inspection, the female character's expression showed tension and anxiety, not happiness or comfort. At that moment, I realized clearly that what I really wanted was not just stimulation, but a real sense of connection.

“Stimulation is fleeting, but connection is remembered forever.”

Stimuli are fragmented and fleeting. What we really want is A deep sense of security and fulfillmentTrue connection is something that deepens and builds over time.

At its core, sex drive is the desire to pass on your genes to future generations. Some people need validation through family, others want to be remembered for their abilities. Philosophers and artists fall into that category.

But if you channel your sexuality into pornography or meaningless relationships instead of procreation, you'll be left with a lot of emptiness and unhappiness in the long run. We need to move away from fake connectivity and pursue true happiness.

🌸 True happiness and connection

What I really wanted was a Relaxation and calm in a busy, tense lifeThis is only possible through a true sense of connection. Relationships that are only about fulfilling your own needs without considering the other person's needs are not In the end, only a deep sense of emptinessbecause it leaves a.

Digging deeper, Emotionless sexOur genitals are sensitive and the most physically vulnerable part of us. We feel a temporary connection to our partner through this area, but it's far from a true emotional connection. When the relationship ends, our sense of presence eventually fades and we are left with an emptiness.

True connection is Trust, care, and heartfelt interactions with othersthat we feel connected to. This sense of connection grows stronger over time, giving us a sense of True happiness and life satisfactionin the end.

Instead of simply repressing my sexuality, I now plan to channel it naturally through exercise, art, and creative endeavors, seeking a true sense of inner fulfillment and connection. I guess the key to practicing abstinence properly is to move beyond abstinence and stimulation and understand true connection...?

“We want to make sure that in some way
I want my existence confirmed.

The stimulus is momentary,
The sense of connection builds over time.”

We want you to understand the true roots of the goldilocks and create a real sense of connection.
Today and tomorrow, we are grateful to have each other. We love you.