Nmusoju yi sangsim, giving your heart without staying.

Introduction - Warm Questions

“應無所住而生其心, Ng mu soju yi seng gisheng.
Let go of dwelling.”

It's a phrase you've probably heard before.
It's short, but strangely cool, and at the same time too abstract.
When I first encountered this phrase, I honestly didn't realize that the “What the hell are you talking about, aren't you telling me to just run away?” and shook my head.

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Everyday obsessions

As we go through life, our minds naturally linger on and attach to things.

For example,

• It's been a while since you've eaten a fine steak “Wow, this is real life happiness” and bask in the euphoria.
• If you're working out and want to set a record “I'm stronger because I went up 1RM this time” and feel proud of yourself.
• While you're with your loved ones “I wish this time could last forever” when you want to.

These moments are so natural and good.
The problem is that this is overkill and “Without this, I fall apart”is when you're in the mindset of.

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The difference between obsession and immersion

I break it down like this.

• Obsession: “Without this, I'm done.”
• Immersion: “I'm happy with it, and I'm okay without it. I'm still me.”

Nmusoju Yi Senggisimis this difference.
Not to completely deny something,
Enjoy it, love it, but don't hold on to it and make it your life.

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Nguyen Soju's Ease of Living Practice 1 - Non-attachment in Exercise

I've been working out for a long time - MMA, jiu-jitsu, weights... using my body is a big part of my life.
At one point, the “If I don't hit my strength records, I'm a failure”was also a compulsion.

That compulsion actually made me stronger, because knowing that I had to beat my time made me more committed to my training.
But over time, I learned.

Without obsessing over records, I still enjoy my workouts, and my body continues to grow.

Deepen immersion, but let go of attachment.
That's the key takeaway for me today.

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N'mu Soju Practice 2 - Nonattachment in Relationships

Our relationship with people is similar.
When you're with a good person, you're happy, and you want that to last.
But when someone unceremoniously walked away, hanging on to it left you with nothing but hurt.

“Oh, this person wasn't worth staying with me in the first place.”
After letting go, I felt a lot lighter.

Conversely, what if it's someone you really care about?
It's different then, and you have to hold on to it with more heart, more warmth.

Non-attachment doesn't mean being cold and distant, The power to discern where my heart liesfor the first time.

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Nghiệm Soàn Điệm Soàn 3 - Non-attachment in Food

Let's get back to food.
Eat a steak “Wow, this is the best time of my life, I have to come again” and being happy about it.

But what if I'm busy a week later and can't make it?
“Oh... I can't go, my life is wasted” is an obsession.

Just use the “I didn't make it this week, that's okay, I'll make it next time.”
Isn't that what obsession is?

Of course, this doesn't mean you should suppress your emotions.
If it feels empty, it's okay to feel empty.
It's just about listening to what those feelings are telling you.

“Oh, I've been working so much lately, I haven't had time to take care of myself.”

This realization actually makes the next choice healthier.

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Apply it to your life

To paraphrase Nguyen Soju's sentiment, it goes like this.

• Do what you love, but don't let it be all you do.
• Enjoy the accomplishments, relationships, and food while they're there, and be grateful when you leave.
• You can want something nice, but don't obsess over it.
• Then find something better and move forward.

This is especially true for human relationships.
Someone who leaves rudely isn't worth continuing.
Conversely, if it's someone you really care about, you'll want to stay warmer.

Nonattachment is not coldness, it's freedom on the basis of right discernment.in my opinion.

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Wrap-up - Warm message

“When I say don't stay, I don't mean run away.
Rather, it's about living more fully in the moment and loving freely.”

I still think about it today when I'm working out, when I'm writing, when I'm with my loved ones.
Less obsession, more immersion.

It makes life feel a little lighter, a little freer 🌿.

Where is your heart these days?