Why Did That Car Narrowly Miss Me? (Dominant vs. Avoidant): Avoidant Humans and Cause and Effect

Is it just bad driving, or is it rudeness born of deprivation?

Hi, everyone! I'm Seo Joon.

Yesterday I worked really hard with weights, so today I went for a walk to recover my CNS (central nervous system).

At the time, I was walking down a road that was kind of like a country lane, but also a road in a way, and a car came from off in the distance and just whizzed by me, really, really close, and no matter how legally sound the car was, I stayed as close to the side of the road as I could, because that was the only way to go.

I felt really bad in the moment, because it was like the car was saying to me, "You're not going to make it.

“I'm driving an expensive car, and you're nothing.”
“Why are people driving on the road?! I'm going to give him a push.”

No matter how much I tried to make sense of it, saying that I was in a hurry or something, my surprise and offense didn't go away, and I was stuck with it until the walk was almost over.

But when I took a closer look, I realized that the car wasn't that expensive, it was a rental car... I thought, ‘Oh, he's a show-off.’ These people usually don't have good relationships, and they're often not very stable financially or psychologically. After I had a little bit of a mental victory, I calmed down a little bit.

I have a lot of good people around me, and I think I'm capable, athletic, and intelligent... I just don't have the financial resources yet! (Hehe)

I feel a lot while blogging or YouTube these days. They say that there is no reaction at the beginning, but there is something called ‘sandbox period' even though it is not official. I won't go into more detail because Google might not like it, but... When I see this system, it hurts me that good citizens are losing money because of some bad people.
(If you're wondering, the ‘Blog Sandbox Duration’in your search!)

I know, I know, he could have been driving without thinking, or he could have been inexperienced, or he could have been numb, but there's a real possibility that he could have been a ‘bad guy‘ - a typical "life-avoidant" who only feels safe when he's in a position of power over others.

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Dominant vs. Avoidant: What's the difference?

Why is it not dominant and not ‘evasive’If you're a Dominant (martial arts style)likes to try to be healthy and meet things head on, because I get fulfillment from proving myself, not from hurting someone.

However, the EvasiveWhen you're close to someone, you try to manipulate them (gaslighting), and when you're far away, you sneak up on them. You regret your behavior every morning, but you can't stop. You're too scared to admit you have a problem, so you try to validate your existence by hurting others.

The problem is, because of the way our brains are wired, when we try to cover up our problems with something else, we end up wanting something bigger and more stimulating, and we end up doing worse and worse things, regretting them more and more, and covering up our true feelings.

So they end up breaking down on their own, because even if you try to help them, there's nothing you can do because they're scared and they're avoiding you. I like to help people, and I'm an understanding person, so I've tried to reach out to them, but they won't confront me.

Of course, it could be that the driver was really inept, or maybe he just didn't see me, and I felt worse because I saw some of the ‘life avoiders" I've experienced in the past in that car.

I hope my YouTube or blog will do well and I will be financially stable one day.

Just in case
“Why would anyone go to work if it was so easy to make money?”
I'm sure there are some of you out there who will say

Then quit your job and do what I did and make a video, write a blog, write a book, and release an album in over 8 months. I hope you meditate, exercise, breathe, affirm, and read for a healthy mind, and don't just berate me with words.

Most people support me, and I really appreciate that, but every once in a while I get offended by a few rude people, and I just want to say to those people, if you keep living like that, you're going to get really hurt, and one day I might explode and do as much damage to people as you've done to me all at once. I'm not telling you to be nice, I'm just telling you to keep that in the back of your mind.

Doing harm to others will eventually come back to bite you. Cause and effect. Whether I do it myself, the social system does it, or the laws of the universe, it's going to come, and if you want to be the least hurt when it does, you might as well try to do it now, because it'll be less painful.

It's not a serious post, it's not an angry post, it's just... today I just wanted to tap on the keyboard and write down my thoughts, something that doesn't have to help anyone, maybe just for myself.

January 22, 2026
Finish recording Seo Jun's emotions.
_{(Someday you'll look at this and think
Here's to a day when you can smile warmly :).}